Adopting after an Adoption Disruption

I am getting inundated with parents who have been through an adoption disruption, applied to adopt again, and been declined by their LA who have put the blame for the disruption squarely at the parents feet.  This cannot be right?  These parents are heroes who deserve support – and have tried their hardest with damaged children often at the cost of their marriages ; ask yourself the question – could you do any better?

I have had the same email may be 50 times since I launched adoptiondisruptionuk.com

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Sharing Adoption Disruption Stories

I have been very moved over past few days by people contacting me with their Adoption Disruption stories all at various stages of placement, Pre and Post Adoption Order, and the fact  all of them have offered to share their contacts with others going through this.  It means that the website is working and the support group is actively in progress.  This feels like the start of an amazing achievement.  If you know someone or have been through and Adoption Disruption yourself and would like to contact me please do via email: adoptiondisruptionuk@yahoo.co.uk

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Opinion by Dr Cohn

‘Think the main motto when adopting children is the ideas that ‘all you need is love’ and ‘love, love conquers everything’ are frequently suggested but woefully inadequate’ . Dr Cohn, Consultant Paediatrician, Watford General Hospital

Dr Cohn Opinion

Interested in contributing a story or article for Adoption Disruption UK?

As a professional in your field – would you be Interested in contributing a story or article for Adoption Disruption UK? I am looking for doctors/teachers/psychologists/lawyers/MP’s anyone with a relevant professional background etc – anyone who might be able to make a relevant contribution to the website with a view/theory etc on Adoption Disruption.  Please email adoptiondisruptionuk@yahoo.co.uk and let me know your ideas and contribution.

Calling all Contributors

CHANGE CARE ORDER C110A TO PROTECT ALL PARENTS

I urgently request the Government to amend Care Order Form C110A

CARE ORDER Form C110A fails to protect natural and adoptive parents whose child has to go into Care for complex medical and/or psychological reasons only. As the form stands: Part 4 of the Children Act 1989 states: The grounds for the application are that the child(ren) is suffering or is likely to suffer, significant harm and the harm or likelihood of harm is because the child is:

  • not receiving care that would be reasonably expected from a parent, or
  • is beyond parental control

I want a new entry box in Section 4:  has complex medical and/or psychological reasons.

This is a neutral and no blame approach to the breakdown where parental love and devotion are not the issues.

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Adoption Disruption UK Support Group

Adoption Disruption UK Mission Statement.

This is a website designed to support and help natural and adoptive parents whose child has had to go back into care or is in the process of experiencing this traumatic event because of complex psychological and/or medical reasons.   Having been through this experience myself ( you can read My Story) I understand how isolating and traumatic losing a child in this way. I realised that there was no online support group in the UK or anywhere specific offering advice, counselling or consolation. Had I been able to reach out and talk to another Parent who had gone through something similar I know I would have felt less alone.

In my case I had an adopted child and therefore went through an Adoption Disruption. Hence the idea to link Adoptive Parents together so they can chat/meet up and so forth but it is also for natural parents too who have been through a Care Order.

This is to be an informative site, dedicated to being a lifeline to parents in distress.

It is my belief the more open Local Authorities/Social Workers can be, the more supportive the government can be, the more informed  Parents will be and this will help create a culture of overall openness. The stigma and sense of isolation many Adoptive Parents feel is currently encouraged by a society and government that does little to support them Post Adoption Disruption.

I want more information to be available to Parents who have adopted and proactively support a change in the current Care Order form to protect ALL Parents as this form is used for both birth parents and parents who have adopted. I want more pressure put on the government to affect these changes.

Information is steadily being uploaded to the website so please bear with me while the website grows and develops. Adoption Disruption UK has just gone live January 2015.

All views on this website are subject to change and updates and do not represent any other views except my own and the people who represent their own views on here.

This website is a work in progress and is under constant evaluation.

 

Support Group for All Parents

Support Group for All Parents