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Thank you for reading this and hope you get in touch. Clare.
Claire – thank you for letting me do this.
This is a genuine email from someone who has contacted the website raising the same issue about adopting post disrupting. There is an extremely serious issue at heart here . Local Authorities will simply NOT allow a parent who has disrupted (post adoption order) to adopt again. However they will not say this to their face and follow the farcical procedures of pretending to examine them as a potential adopter again with the same end result – a series of reasons at the end of it why they may not. My local authority will simply not tell me how many adopters who disrupted have gone on to successfully adopt again – why not?
It must be a very easy figure to ascertain. They said I would have to pay the LA £450 for them to reveal this information. What a ridiculous response and an evident diversion away from the truth.
Adopting post disruption and treatment by LA’s handling this subject is a human rights issue, and one that refuses to go away. Discrimination to protect themselves?
Contact me or share this story if you know someone willing to speak up and tell me about their positive second time round adoption story.
here’s the same story repeated to me regularly from genuine parent…
‘however it seems we are now facing being discriminated against even though the breakdown was because of social services and not us.
I am sharing the article published by Grazia in South Africa – it doesn’t wholly reflect my story. I am discovering that it’s probably best to tell my story in my own words in future to the press ! however it does raise awareness about adopting damaged children and the subsequent Adoption Disruption which occurs and Care Orders which as you know I am passionate about changing and is the only reason why I went public with my story. Thank you South Africa for your support.
I am getting inundated with parents who have been through an adoption disruption, applied to adopt again, and been declined by their LA who have put the blame for the disruption squarely at the parents feet. This cannot be right? These parents are heroes who deserve support – and have tried their hardest with damaged children often at the cost of their marriages ; ask yourself the question – could you do any better?
I have had the same email may be 50 times since I launched adoptiondisruptionuk.com
Thanks to all those who have had the courage to email me, post a comment on the forum, and those who have signed the Care Order Petition, and retweeted adoptiondisruptionuk
A lovely friend of mine just said a prayer for my son while she was in GOSH yesterday with her daughter when she visited the chapel. For anyone who doesn’t know the chapel at GOSH is one of the most beautiful places in the world and one of the most poignant. Thanks again everyone for all your support for the new website.
I am a woman and am a supporter of all women. I support mothers who have given up their child for adoption, I support mothers who have adopted and I support birth mothers who struggle with raising kids on a day to day basis.
I believe in human rights. I do not believe in trolling under any circumstance.
I had not abandoned my adoptive child. He was an extremely poorly child with attachment issues, autism, neurological brain damage, poor muscle tone, who required 24/7 medical care and supervision which I was unable to provide as single carer. It was not as some people interpreted that he was disabled and that is why I ‘returned’ him. I had managed his disabilities successful until his uncontrollable seizures started and it became clear all his symptoms were part of a far wider problem.
The decision for him to go back into state care was made in conjunction with GOSH, SWs, doctors .
I had the full their full support as it was acknowledged by son’s medical needs were so extensive there was NO CARE PACKAGE AVAILABLE that could be offered to cope with his MEDICAL requirements so that he could be kept at home with me.
He moved to a foster care placement with four adults sharing the responsibility of caring for him 24/7 and I would like to personally thank them today for taking the most amazing care of him.
Thank you Daily Mail for sensationalising my story, but at the end of day you have also made the decent and caring people of Great Britain aware of the heartbreak for parents and children who go through adoption disruption and Care Orders and raised awareness of my website to support parents and the need to change the Care Order Form.