Interested in contributing to research regarding Adoption Disruption for MA degree?

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Hi,
My name is Clare Heyhoe and I am a counsellor. I am undertaking a research project on adoption breakdown as part of my Masters degree at Cambridge University, and I would like to invite anyone who has experienced adoption breakdown to talk to me about it and for me to hear your story.

WHY?
I believe the impact, trauma and emotional cost of breakdown for adoptive families and children, is never truly understood or heard. I would like Local Authorities and Agencies to hear the voices of adoptive parents and their experiences, in order to try to prevent future breakdowns.

WHAT, HOW AND WHEN?
During March, when and where convenient for you – within Hertfordshire, Bedfordshire or Cambridgeshire if at all possible. It will be an informal, semi-structured interview, where I hope you will feel relaxed enough to talk to me.

CONFIDENTIALITY
All that you say will be confidential. Names will not be used and I will make sure you cannot be identified. I will need your consent to record our session(s) in order for me to analyse what you have said for the report. You will be able to read through these transcripts. You can change your mind about taking part at any time and leave the research project.

NOT SURE….
By talking about your experience, many mixed and possibly overwhelming emotions may be triggered. I offer empathy, warmth and am non-judgemental. I am also a member of the BACP (British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists), bound by their ethical guidelines for research where well-being is paramount. I have ongoing supervision with Fiona Peacock, who is a BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor and a Certified Theraplay Therapist and Trainer.

If you are willing to take part, thinking about it, and/or have any questions, please can you get in touch with me at: clare.heyhoe@btinternet.com.

Thank you for reading this and hope you get in touch. Clare.

Claire – thank you for letting me do this.

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Edward Timpson MP

I think Edward Timpson Department for Education, Ministerial and Public Communications  may be the only person who can help further financial support for http://www.adoptiondisruptionuk.com and further the campaign to change the current nature of the Care Order to protect parents post adoption disruption.  I have emailed him today 26.5.15  I will let you know when I hear back.

Edward Timpson

Grazia South Africa article – 8th April 2015

I am sharing the article published by Grazia in South Africa – it doesn’t wholly reflect my story. I am discovering that it’s probably best to tell my story in my own words in future to the press !  however it does raise awareness about adopting damaged children and the subsequent Adoption Disruption which occurs and Care Orders which as you know I am passionate about changing and is the only reason why I went public with my story.  Thank you South Africa for your support.

http://www.pressreader.com/south-africa/grazia/20150408/283592398829483/TextView

Grazia South Africa

Adopting after an Adoption Disruption

I am getting inundated with parents who have been through an adoption disruption, applied to adopt again, and been declined by their LA who have put the blame for the disruption squarely at the parents feet.  This cannot be right?  These parents are heroes who deserve support – and have tried their hardest with damaged children often at the cost of their marriages ; ask yourself the question – could you do any better?

I have had the same email may be 50 times since I launched adoptiondisruptionuk.com

Thank you everyone

Thanks to all those who have had the courage to email me, post a comment on the forum, and those who have signed the Care Order Petition, and retweeted  adoptiondisruptionuk

A lovely friend of mine just said a prayer for my son while she was in GOSH yesterday with her daughter when she visited the chapel.  For anyone who doesn’t know the chapel at GOSH is one of the most beautiful places in the world and one of the most poignant.  Thanks again everyone for all your support for the new website.

gosh chapel

The Daily Mail Article – backlash

I am a woman and am a supporter of all women.  I support mothers who have given up their child for adoption, I support mothers who have adopted and I support birth mothers who struggle with raising kids on a day to day basis.

I believe in human rights. I do not believe in trolling under any circumstance.

I had not abandoned my adoptive child. He was an extremely poorly child with attachment issues, autism, neurological brain damage, poor muscle tone, who required 24/7 medical care  and supervision which I was unable to provide as single carer. It was not as some people interpreted that he was disabled and that is why I ‘returned’ him. I had managed his disabilities successful until  his uncontrollable seizures started and it became clear all his symptoms were part of a far wider problem.

The decision for him to go back into state care was made in conjunction with GOSH, SWs, doctors .

I had the full their full support as it was acknowledged by son’s medical needs were so extensive there was NO CARE PACKAGE AVAILABLE that could be offered to cope with his MEDICAL requirements so that he could be kept at home with me.

He moved to a foster care placement with four adults sharing the responsibility of caring for him 24/7 and I would like to personally thank them today for taking the most amazing care of him.

Thank you Daily Mail for sensationalising my story, but at the end of day you have also made the decent and caring people of Great Britain aware of the heartbreak for parents and children who go through adoption disruption and Care Orders and raised awareness of my website to support parents and the need to change the Care Order Form.