The Daily Mail – 19th March 2015 – new article

The Daily Mail – Thursday 19th March 2015 – http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/index.html  I am mentioned in the Daily Mail Online today and have been given full support by a very courageous woman who has told her story about adopting her child.  It was really kind of her to give me her support and not condemnation and I thank her for putting herself out for me in doing so.

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The Daily Mail Article – backlash

I am a woman and am a supporter of all women.  I support mothers who have given up their child for adoption, I support mothers who have adopted and I support birth mothers who struggle with raising kids on a day to day basis.

I believe in human rights. I do not believe in trolling under any circumstance.

I had not abandoned my adoptive child. He was an extremely poorly child with attachment issues, autism, neurological brain damage, poor muscle tone, who required 24/7 medical care  and supervision which I was unable to provide as single carer. It was not as some people interpreted that he was disabled and that is why I ‘returned’ him. I had managed his disabilities successful until  his uncontrollable seizures started and it became clear all his symptoms were part of a far wider problem.

The decision for him to go back into state care was made in conjunction with GOSH, SWs, doctors .

I had the full their full support as it was acknowledged by son’s medical needs were so extensive there was NO CARE PACKAGE AVAILABLE that could be offered to cope with his MEDICAL requirements so that he could be kept at home with me.

He moved to a foster care placement with four adults sharing the responsibility of caring for him 24/7 and I would like to personally thank them today for taking the most amazing care of him.

Thank you Daily Mail for sensationalising my story, but at the end of day you have also made the decent and caring people of Great Britain aware of the heartbreak for parents and children who go through adoption disruption and Care Orders and raised awareness of my website to support parents and the need to change the Care Order Form.

Request for Lawyers – Change the Care Order form

UK lawyers please contact me – Do you work with Care Order Proceedings? Are you empathetic to a change in the Care Order form C110A?  -if so how would you change the Care Order Form?  let me know how you would change the Care Order form so it is less adversarial and less damaging to the parents than it currently stands.  I propose a third box with complex psychological and/or medical grounds’ which would mean it would not denigrate or blame the parent.  As the form currently stands care proceedings are a seriously traumatic experience for the parent.  Please contact me asap with your views.  email adoptiondisruptionuk@yahoo.co.uk Thank you Claire

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The Open Nest

This wonderful organisation has just come to my attention -thank you Amanda Boorman for providing me with some background info.

‘We are a forward thinking charity that offers post adoption peer support. We organise and deliver awareness raising projects informed by the adoption community.
We also offer free short breaks to adoptive families in crisis and in 2015 are hoping to register to add a therapeutic childcare element to these breaks.
Run by experienced adopters and adoptees’ Please visit:
The Open Nest

Sharing Adoption Disruption Stories

I have been very moved over past few days by people contacting me with their Adoption Disruption stories all at various stages of placement, Pre and Post Adoption Order, and the fact  all of them have offered to share their contacts with others going through this.  It means that the website is working and the support group is actively in progress.  This feels like the start of an amazing achievement.  If you know someone or have been through and Adoption Disruption yourself and would like to contact me please do via email: adoptiondisruptionuk@yahoo.co.uk

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Opinion by Dr Cohn

‘Think the main motto when adopting children is the ideas that ‘all you need is love’ and ‘love, love conquers everything’ are frequently suggested but woefully inadequate’ . Dr Cohn, Consultant Paediatrician, Watford General Hospital

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