Adopting after an Adoption Disruption

I am getting inundated with parents who have been through an adoption disruption, applied to adopt again, and been declined by their LA who have put the blame for the disruption squarely at the parents feet.  This cannot be right?  These parents are heroes who deserve support – and have tried their hardest with damaged children often at the cost of their marriages ; ask yourself the question – could you do any better?

I have had the same email may be 50 times since I launched adoptiondisruptionuk.com

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Thank you everyone

Thanks to all those who have had the courage to email me, post a comment on the forum, and those who have signed the Care Order Petition, and retweeted  adoptiondisruptionuk

A lovely friend of mine just said a prayer for my son while she was in GOSH yesterday with her daughter when she visited the chapel.  For anyone who doesn’t know the chapel at GOSH is one of the most beautiful places in the world and one of the most poignant.  Thanks again everyone for all your support for the new website.

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The Daily Mail Article – backlash

I am a woman and am a supporter of all women.  I support mothers who have given up their child for adoption, I support mothers who have adopted and I support birth mothers who struggle with raising kids on a day to day basis.

I believe in human rights. I do not believe in trolling under any circumstance.

I had not abandoned my adoptive child. He was an extremely poorly child with attachment issues, autism, neurological brain damage, poor muscle tone, who required 24/7 medical care  and supervision which I was unable to provide as single carer. It was not as some people interpreted that he was disabled and that is why I ‘returned’ him. I had managed his disabilities successful until  his uncontrollable seizures started and it became clear all his symptoms were part of a far wider problem.

The decision for him to go back into state care was made in conjunction with GOSH, SWs, doctors .

I had the full their full support as it was acknowledged by son’s medical needs were so extensive there was NO CARE PACKAGE AVAILABLE that could be offered to cope with his MEDICAL requirements so that he could be kept at home with me.

He moved to a foster care placement with four adults sharing the responsibility of caring for him 24/7 and I would like to personally thank them today for taking the most amazing care of him.

Thank you Daily Mail for sensationalising my story, but at the end of day you have also made the decent and caring people of Great Britain aware of the heartbreak for parents and children who go through adoption disruption and Care Orders and raised awareness of my website to support parents and the need to change the Care Order Form.

The Open Nest

This wonderful organisation has just come to my attention -thank you Amanda Boorman for providing me with some background info.

‘We are a forward thinking charity that offers post adoption peer support. We organise and deliver awareness raising projects informed by the adoption community.
We also offer free short breaks to adoptive families in crisis and in 2015 are hoping to register to add a therapeutic childcare element to these breaks.
Run by experienced adopters and adoptees’ Please visit:
The Open Nest

Sharing Adoption Disruption Stories

I have been very moved over past few days by people contacting me with their Adoption Disruption stories all at various stages of placement, Pre and Post Adoption Order, and the fact  all of them have offered to share their contacts with others going through this.  It means that the website is working and the support group is actively in progress.  This feels like the start of an amazing achievement.  If you know someone or have been through and Adoption Disruption yourself and would like to contact me please do via email: adoptiondisruptionuk@yahoo.co.uk

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