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If you are willing to take part, thinking about it, and/or have any questions, please can you get in touch with me at: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thank you for reading this and hope you get in touch. Clare.
Claire – thank you for letting me do this.
I am getting inundated with parents who have been through an adoption disruption, applied to adopt again, and been declined by their LA who have put the blame for the disruption squarely at the parents feet. This cannot be right? These parents are heroes who deserve support – and have tried their hardest with damaged children often at the cost of their marriages ; ask yourself the question – could you do any better?
I have had the same email may be 50 times since I launched adoptiondisruptionuk.com
Thanks to all those who have had the courage to email me, post a comment on the forum, and those who have signed the Care Order Petition, and retweeted adoptiondisruptionuk
A lovely friend of mine just said a prayer for my son while she was in GOSH yesterday with her daughter when she visited the chapel. For anyone who doesn’t know the chapel at GOSH is one of the most beautiful places in the world and one of the most poignant. Thanks again everyone for all your support for the new website.
The Daily Mail – Thursday 19th March 2015 – http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/index.html I am mentioned in the Daily Mail Online today and have been given full support by a very courageous woman who has told her story about adopting her child. It was really kind of her to give me her support and not condemnation and I thank her for putting herself out for me in doing so.
I am a woman and am a supporter of all women. I support mothers who have given up their child for adoption, I support mothers who have adopted and I support birth mothers who struggle with raising kids on a day to day basis.
I believe in human rights. I do not believe in trolling under any circumstance.
I had not abandoned my adoptive child. He was an extremely poorly child with attachment issues, autism, neurological brain damage, poor muscle tone, who required 24/7 medical care and supervision which I was unable to provide as single carer. It was not as some people interpreted that he was disabled and that is why I ‘returned’ him. I had managed his disabilities successful until his uncontrollable seizures started and it became clear all his symptoms were part of a far wider problem.
The decision for him to go back into state care was made in conjunction with GOSH, SWs, doctors .
I had the full their full support as it was acknowledged by son’s medical needs were so extensive there was NO CARE PACKAGE AVAILABLE that could be offered to cope with his MEDICAL requirements so that he could be kept at home with me.
He moved to a foster care placement with four adults sharing the responsibility of caring for him 24/7 and I would like to personally thank them today for taking the most amazing care of him.
Thank you Daily Mail for sensationalising my story, but at the end of day you have also made the decent and caring people of Great Britain aware of the heartbreak for parents and children who go through adoption disruption and Care Orders and raised awareness of my website to support parents and the need to change the Care Order Form.
UK lawyers please contact me – Do you work with Care Order Proceedings? Are you empathetic to a change in the Care Order form C110A? -if so how would you change the Care Order Form? let me know how you would change the Care Order form so it is less adversarial and less damaging to the parents than it currently stands. I propose a third box with complex psychological and/or medical grounds’ which would mean it would not denigrate or blame the parent. As the form currently stands care proceedings are a seriously traumatic experience for the parent. Please contact me asap with your views. email email@example.com Thank you Claire