The message received loud and clear from parents who have contacted me via this website is that Social Services neglect, abandon, disown parents who have disrupted or wish to disrupt. Every single parent who has emailed me reports the exact same experience. This is a shocking FACT. Why do the SS fail parents at a time when support should not be greater? That is the bigger question – something to do with statistics? having to admit failure/poor representation of the child to start with – inadequate services/ poorly educated staff? Social Services distance themselves from parents almost immediately a disruption is on the cards and offer zero support; and instead go on the defensive, close rank and make sure that the parent accepts all the blame for the disruption. Authorities accept NO blame or failure in the adoption breakdown. The question we need to ask ourselves is what is wrong with Social Services and how a Dickensian organisation like this can purport to be on the side of children’s best interests? Woe betide you ever fall short as a parent and end up the wrong side of the fence…. Parents who have experienced the tragedy of disruption are further traumatised by SS attitudes, the adoption disruption meetings and the Care Orders and are further more bamboozled by the Local authorities appalling internal formal complaints procedure, yet again designed to protect all those within the SS for their own internal miserable failures. Don’t forget your human rights ‘No one shall be subject to attacks upon his honour and reputation. Everyone has the right to protection of the law against such interference or attacks’ Declaration of Human Rights Article 12. Feel free to quote and repeat this next time SS blames you for the disruption in its entirety. As parents who have been through an adoption disruption trauma we need to collectively report our experiences and stand up and be counted without cowering in the shadow of fear. The LA’s shambolic internal formal complaints procedure has left us as parents with one other powerful option – go to your local MP, media, radio stations, and national papers. The SS have left parents with no other choices as they consistently defend the indefensible, have no hesitation to misreport facts, and will have you as the parent cast aside as the pariah and accept no blame or part in any of the breakdown. Your voice does count. Make it count.